It's Not Their Fault

Ever ask yourself why is it so hard to be a teacher? A teacher, in some way, is just like a parent. With the exception that we get to send the kids away at 2:30 in the afternoon.

When you take the role of a teacher, you should take it with great conviction and passion. There will be some days where your most challenging student, who constantly defies you, will come to you. The most important thing to do is to not turn them away. Now, of course we as teachers, school counselors, and administrators have rules to abide by; the objective is to embrace the student when they are hurting. Do not show any form of discomfort towards their struggles. Always listen and console them, appropriately.

One of favorite scenes from Good Will Hunting is when Matt Damon’s character (Will) allows his guard to drop and finally confide in Robin William’s character (Sean). While the scene is emotionally draining, it has a powerful influence how Will should shape his life.  Absolution and affirmation is paramount to your most rebellious student.

Demonstrating caring is one of the most powerful ways to build positive relationships with your students. Caring also fosters a preventive approach to discipline, as students who feel cared for are more likely to want to please you by complying with your wishes and policies. It is a tragedy when a student mistakenly believes that his teacher does not care for or like him or her. When you empathize with students, they understand that they are recognized and valued. This does not mean that you have to agree with all their actions, but that you let them know that you recognize the emotions behind their actions. You can communicate empathy by telling students that even though it's wrong to hit someone, for instance, you understand the emotions behind an incident. 

 Not all of us are teacher, but we are all human. My challenge for all of you is to care for all children, especially those who need it the most. And let’s also try by being there for others who choose not to speak up, and have a difficult time with sadness.



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